Are we just friends or maybe just ‘friends with benefits’? While I don’t exactly regret those times – I believe what passes for dating today is an equally unappealing opposite extreme.
In fact, shocking as it may sound today – only a few decades ago people were still marrying as virgins.
Still, many people get fed up with this after a while and start craving the real thing – an open, honest, intimate relationship with someone who’ll take them seriously. But how to make the leap from one-or-few-night stands and loose ties to real love and commitment? If you wait long enough with sex – you will be able to see if someone is truly into you, and have a much better idea if you are into them as well.
This is where the sex-timing thing comes into play – because sex has become such an easy currency that gives us easy satisfaction and a false sense of closeness. If they forget to call for a long time after you’ve told them you’re not ready to have sex yet – then you know their interest in you was not genuine.
An emotionally distant partner can be frustrating, which is why it is important to keep the communication flowing.
Maybe the timing is fine, but you’re just afraid of taking that step, so you’re using this generally accepted reason as validation of your fear. We haven’t done a True or False in a while, and since this seems to be a topic that kept springing on me recently, I decided to kill two birds with one stone. In times where casual ‘hooking-up’ has become more of the dating norm than exception, it’s getting harder and harder to know how to go about looking for a long-term, serious relationship. If we do the opposite and give it all we got, fall in love and open our hearts – we risk too much.It’s so easy to get in and out of these superficial ties that people often aren’t even sure if they are single or not, are they dating someone or it’s just been a one-off thing last Saturday and they’ll never speak to each other again. The chances of getting battered and bruised by someone who’ll see us as passing entertainment and not the real thing are pretty high. The consequence of keeping your heart at bay is that we often have no clue whether we feel something for someone or not.And so it isn’t the right relationship at the right time. There is the right person, and then there is the wrong time.That doesn’t mean that you won’t ever end up together, it just might mean that the person you have in your life right now is not what – or who – you need at this time.Since everyone else is being so honest and vulnerable in the clip and Williams comes off as super impassioned and almost a bit pissed off, I thought he was being real. TMZ has photos of Jesse Williams and that “cute girl” he worked with going on a movie date in West Hollywood last night. I guess I’m one of those “motherf--kers writing thinking pieces” but after I saw these photos, the only words I could think to describe Jesse Williams were “this motherf--ker.” Maybe his defence will be that he started seeing Minka Kelly after his marriage ended but still, the timing is suspect.